Adjustments

Oh, we’ve had some trying times in our home recently! It’s amazing how such a little person (Rebekah, the newborn) can make such a HUGE change in a family! It’s been hard. I was told by several friends that the transition from 2 to 3 kids was the hardest one. I would have to agree. It seems it’s been especially hard on Ben. We figured it would be hard on him, but man! This is crazy!!! He is ever so tender and gentle and loving to Rebekah. But to the rest of us? Yikes!! He’s acting out by not sleeping and has opted to eat very little. These 2 things combined make for one crabby 2 year old! It’s been rough on all of us. Cora is acting out by being defiant, complaining and whining a lot. This too is very trying on us.

It’s been challenging, to say the least, and yet, we continue on! Eventually things will settle down, Ben and Cora will learn to adjust and we will start operating more smoothly as a family of 5. There are days when David and I lose it, start grumbling, complaining and whining ourselves. We have found that this only makes everything worse! Wouldn’t you know that the kids pick up on our bad attitudes and act accordingly? It’s been quite the learning experience for us too. Sometimes it’s hard to be the adult. Sometimes it’s hard to take the high road, even when it’s just with your children. Sometimes it’s hard not to lose your temper, whine, yell and cry yourself.

However, as the parents and the adults it’s necessary for us to act as such. And, besides that, God has blessed us with these children, and it’s our job to make sure we teach them how to deal with stress and change appropriately. Doesn’t mean we get it right all the time, but it’s necessary just the same. How do you help your little ones deal with changes in life–good, bad or otherwise? How do you prepare them for changes that will come? What has been one of the hardest adjustments in your family?

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